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How to Be Totally Unhappy in a Peaceful World
A Complete Manual with Rules, Exercises, a Midterm and Final Exam

Translated into Chinese, Danish, Spanish and Thai.

UnHappy - English
Original Cover
Unhappy - Chinese
Unhappy - Danish


Unhappy - Spanish
Table of Contents
Containing the 30 Rules for Total Unhappiness

Rule 1:
Focus on What is Wrong in Your Life

Rule 2:
Keep the Waters of Your Life Muddy by Constant Activity

Rule 3:
Stay in a State of Pressure and Excitement

Rule 4:
Have as Little Rhythm in Your Life as Possible

Rule 5:
Always Compare Yourself with Others

Rule 6:
Consume as Much as Possible;
Produce as Little as Possible

Rule 7:
Get and Stay in Debt-the More the Better

Rule 8:
Desire More; Be Less Content with What You Have

Rule 9:
Keep Your Focus on the Ends, Not the Means

Rule 10:
Take as Much as Possible;
Give as Little as Possible

Rule 11:
Take Everything Personally.
Take Offense whenever Possible

Rule 12:
Assume that in Business Relationships
the People You are Dealing with Have
No Respect for You. So, as a Defensive
Measure, You Should Have No
Respect for Them

Rule 13:
Keep in Mind that Your Spouse,
"Significant Other" or the Lack of a
Spouse or "Significant Other" in Your Life
is Responsible for Your Unhappiness

Rule 14:
In Sex, Make All Sorts of Impossible
Demands on Yourself and Your Partner

Rule 15:
Have as Few Friends as Possible,
Preferably None

Rule 16:
Search for Something Outside Yourself
that Will Make Your Life Complete

Rule 17:
Never Do What You Enjoy Doing until
after You Do What You Should Do

Rule 18:
Take Everything in Life Seriously.
There are No Unimportant Matters

Rule 19:
Laugh as Little as Possible, Never
without a Good Reason

Rule 20:
Complain as Much as Possible
wherever and whenever Possible

Rule 21:
Stay in a State of Indecision about as Much in Your Life as Possible

Rule 22:

Rule 23:
Forgive No One in Your Life for Anything
They Did or Did Not Do to You.
The Most Important Person You
Should Not Forgive is Yourself

Rule 24:
Eat a High Fat Diet. Let Things Eat You

Rule 25:
Exercise as Little as Possible, and If You
Decide to Exercise, Pick Something that
You Distinctly Don't Like Doing

Rule 26:
Stay as Far Away from Nature as You Can

Rule 27:
Believe Absolutely that There Should
Be no Pain or Suffering of Any Kind
in Your Life

Rule 28:
Believe the World You See is the Only
World There is. Logic is Always
the Answer

Rule 29:
Always Remember How Lonely You Are
Feel How Separate You Are from Others

Rule 30:
Acknowledge that You Have No Choice
Whether to Be Happy or Unhappy. It All
Depends on the Circumstances in Your
Life and is Completely Outside of
Your Control


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-- The Arcata Eye, Oct. 28, 1997

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